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S2 16 Awakening the Divine Feminine: Money, Pleasure, and Consciousness with Sylvia Solit

• Juliette Karaman / Sylvia Solit • Season 2 • Episode 16

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Welcome 💖

Hello, scrumptious souls. It’s Juliette here, and today I am joined by the extraordinary Sylvia Solit. Sylvia is a shaman, mystic, and investor, and her life is a testament to the magic that happens when we blend capital with consciousness. Prepare for a conversation that is both nourishing and thought-provoking, we are diving into embodiment, money, feminine power, and the art of living soul-naked.

Episode Summary ✨

In this episode, Sylvia and I journey through her remarkable path from co-founding a School of Healing Arts in Argentina to a profound awakening in India, and how these experiences shaped her understanding of the divine feminine. We speak candidly about the intersection of money, pleasure, and security, and how so many women find themselves sacrificing their truth for safety. Sylvia shares practical wisdom for healing our relationship with money and work, and we reflect on the collective numbness so many women experience, and how returning to the body is the way home. Sylvia also introduces her forthcoming book, ‘Soul Naked: Initiations of Awakening’, and reveals how she brings consciousness into the world of family offices and generational stewardship.

Key Takeaways 💡

Awakening is Embodied
The divine feminine is not just a concept - it lives in our bodies, in pleasure, and in truth. Awakening is a physical, emotional, and spiritual process.

Healing Your Relationship with Money
True abundance begins when you love your work and cultivate a sense of enoughness. It’s not about more, but about alignment and sufficiency.

Numbness is a Messenger
If you feel numb, your body is asking for honesty and presence. Begin by telling yourself the truth, even if it is simply, “I feel numb right now.”

Conscious Stewardship
We are all stewards of our resources - whether money, energy, or love. Sylvia’s approach to family offices is about aligning capital with purpose and awakening.

Practical Steps for Change
Shift inherited beliefs about work, embrace sufficiency, and honour your body’s wisdom. Small acts of truth create powerful transformation.

Resources and Links 🔗

Find out more about Sylvia and her upcoming book, ‘Soul Naked: Initiations of Awakening’, on her website.

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[00:00:00] Juliette Karaman: Welcome to the Scrumptious Woman. Today I have with me this woman that is absolutely incredible on paper and I'm can't wait for you to see and actually hear who she is. Sylvia Solit when I read Shaman, mystic, money, all sex, like everything just like all the power, right? You're talking about all the kind of stuff that energetically is not only important, but [00:00:30] it's like really touches us deep in our root center.

[00:00:34] Sylvia Solit: I'm so excited for this conversation. I could just tell by the way you introduced me that you really get it, that to be a scrumptious woman is wait a second, like we want. The things we want. All the things. And we wanna feel those things in our body because that's our birthright, right? To feel this like profound pleasure and connection to everything through the body.

[00:00:56] Sylvia Solit: So I'm Sylvia Solit. Thank you for having me today. [00:01:00] And as you. Mentioned I have training as a shaman, which means that I have training in working with plant medicines as a facilitator, but I'm also trained as an investor working in finance. I hold my CFA charter and I have been CIO for several significant family offices.

[00:01:19] Sylvia Solit: And so I really like this intersection between Capital and Consciousness. That's an area that's particularly fascinating to me, but really I like to look at the energy of all [00:01:30] things and how we can access them more deeply and in service to our lives. So thank you for having me. 

[00:01:36] Juliette Karaman: I love it. And that's really it, right?

[00:01:39] Juliette Karaman: Because a lot of people when they hear the scrumptious woman, oh, do you need to be all like looking perfect? And I love the way that we're both wearing white and our hair is just down and it's not really done. And there's. Not that much makeup on or whatever. It's no, we get to be scrumptious.

[00:01:52] Juliette Karaman: We get to have that life force that chi, that energy running through us, which becomes magnetic as fuck. [00:02:00] And actually people are like, yeah, give us some more. So I love how you merge all of that while talking about. Some pretty intense things. And then I've apprenticed for two years with shaman and never understood the whole energy thing until I did.

[00:02:18] Juliette Karaman: And it's oh, when does that land? So tell me a little bit how did you, what came first? Or did it all come at the same time? 

[00:02:27] Sylvia Solit: Yeah, no, the healing came first. [00:02:30] I always like to give the definition of the word shaman because yes, there's just so much controversy around the use of the word and, cultural misappropriation and, but I haven't quite found a better word.

[00:02:40] Sylvia Solit: If somebody has one, send it to me. But. The word shaman essentially means to take something that's unseen and make it seen, which is why it sticks. So it's really, it's the art of peeking behind the veils and calling forth not just for yourself, but for the collective calling [00:03:00] forth from vision, what is ready to be seen in this moment.

[00:03:03] Sylvia Solit: So I think that's the power of what a shaman is. And in that we are all shamans in our own right. 

[00:03:10] Juliette Karaman: Of course. 

[00:03:11] Sylvia Solit: So my early kind of fascination in my twenties was primarily around this question of what does it mean to have a human lifetime? What are we doing here?

[00:03:21] Sylvia Solit: What's it meant to be used for?

[00:03:24] Sylvia Solit: And I became insanely obsessed with that question when I was a [00:03:30]teenager. And inside of that really began what I would consider my spiritual search. But I was so young at the time, I was pissed off about it because I was like, why can't I just be like a normal college kid? I didn't, I was like, not. I was like, oh my gosh. Spirituality is for like those. Weird. Woo. Old white, uhhuh white. I don't want anything to do with it. Not me. And I was like so mad in the beginning. I was like, why did I have to be a spiritual person? Like I, I didn't want it, it just landed.[00:04:00]

[00:04:00] Sylvia Solit: But it was because I just found that question so irresistible. Like what is the purpose of a human lifetime? And that question really led me down the path to understanding that. The purpose of a human lifetime is to wake up. It's just to wake up. Like it's amazing. Like your success in this life is you just become conscious to that.

[00:04:16] Sylvia Solit: That's the goal. That's the goal is to wake up. And I got that at a young enough age. I. 

[00:04:21] Juliette Karaman: Nice. 

[00:04:22] Sylvia Solit: And at the time I co-founded a School of Healing Arts in South America. It's called the Oasis Institute. It still exists today [00:04:30] and 

[00:04:30] Juliette Karaman: Oh, beautiful. Where's that, which country? I lived in South America, so 

[00:04:33] Sylvia Solit: Argentina and Bueno Aires.

[00:04:35] Sylvia Solit: I love it. And it's in Palermo. 

[00:04:40] Juliette Karaman: Ah, 

[00:04:41] Sylvia Solit: when I was around the year 2000. I decided I didn't wanna live in Argentina forever, so I sold my part of the business to the other two co-founders and I moved back to the States and I did a sabbatical at that time. And that sabbatical, I was really trying to figure out what was my next chapter.

[00:04:58] Sylvia Solit: And I [00:05:00] actually went on sabbatical to India and had a really profound awakening experience, which was an awakening experience of the divine feminine. I felt like came to life inside of me, and for about two weeks I felt absolutely possessed by the divine feminine. And I, at the time, I was like, this is great.

[00:05:17] Sylvia Solit: I'm just gonna live in India for the rest of my life and goodbye America. Like it's all good. Like I'm done with you. But as that experience began to integrate into my system I saw the other side of it, which [00:05:30] was that the feminine process of awakening is a very embodied process. And that it's, I wasn't meant to live in a cave by myself.

[00:05:38] Sylvia Solit: I was meant to actually come back and work in the west, but specifically to really learn to work with things like money 

[00:05:47] Sylvia Solit: Guidance it. That's the feminine way of awakening is like how do you bring that awakening to the money, to the sex, to the body, to the marriage, to the relationships, to the all of it.[00:06:00]

[00:06:00] Juliette Karaman: Beauty. Beautiful. And I remember I got to this a little bit later than high school than university or high school like you did. I had my four kids and then afterwards I. Yeah, got into this in a bit more awakening, and I remember one of my first mentors said, if you can outrun it, do.

[00:06:25] Juliette Karaman: But you can't, which is true, right? Once, once you've seen it, you can't unsee [00:06:30] it anymore. Yeah I love the little waves that sometimes it's more visible and sometimes you're like, okay, let me just go back to, into the matrix. Let's just have everything normal quote normal, and you just can't do that anymore after a while.

[00:06:46] Juliette Karaman: Came back from that even more in depth feminine awakening and experience in India and heard that, money, okay, we've gotta work with money, relationship, and power, which [00:07:00] is, if you think about it, those are the most charged, emotionally charged and energetically charged subjects that we can talk and teach about.

[00:07:09] Sylvia Solit: Yes. Yes. And it's funny now that we're talking about it, you brought forth another memory from that trip that I think is beautiful to share, which is at that time, like right before I'd gone to India, I had this sort of like super strict diet. Like I was like, I. Crazy vegan, raw because I wanted to eat clean.

[00:07:29] Sylvia Solit: And I had taken it [00:07:30] to such an extreme that I had actually stopped menstruating, which is super interesting. And I thought that's 'cause I was so pure, I mean like danger. So I was like, I didn't know. I mean it's 'cause I didn't have enough body fat, but I was like, oh yeah, whoops. When I was in India, I was being fed this incredibly nourishing diet with a lot of, ghee and buttermilk GH in it.

[00:07:55] Sylvia Solit: Yeah. All this things that feed the o just and feed the essence, the yin inside of [00:08:00] us. And part of that awakening also was that my period returned to me. 

[00:08:06] Juliette Karaman: Oh, how beautiful. 

[00:08:07] Sylvia Solit: Yeah and it was a very kind of visionary moment that it came back to me. When it came back, it really came back with that message that the feminine awakening is really sourced from the body and is of the body.

[00:08:18] Sylvia Solit: The body's not separate from it.

[00:08:20] Juliette Karaman: Yeah, and I think a lot of us live, and I was talking to someone in my mastermind yesterday, it was [00:08:30] yesterday to this Tuesday. Yes, yesterday where she's oh, I can feel it here in my throat. I'm like yes, you're a woman who's been in a very masculine career for so long, so this part is where you're gonna start feeling at your throat.

[00:08:43] Juliette Karaman: Obviously, that's. Opening a little bit. She's yeah, but that's my compass. I can all of a sudden feel my body. And for her, what happened is that she, it got so bad that she had cancer twice or three times before she listened. And so often we hear [00:09:00] that the moment what we listened to our body is only when it starts.

[00:09:05] Juliette Karaman: Not whispering, but shouting. Yeah. 

[00:09:09] Sylvia Solit: To protest. I always, when I talk to younger women in particular, I always talk about the numbness in the collective feminine body right now, and a lot of women are out there saying, oh, I'm, I feel a little bit numb and disassociated, especially when I'm being intimate with someone and they think that they're broken.

[00:09:28] Sylvia Solit: And I'm like no, you're not broken. [00:09:30] That's actually, your body is completely. Actually fixed. It's your body is protesting. You overriding your deepest truth. And so it's best protests is to numb out 

[00:09:42] Juliette Karaman: to numb out. And we in society do that so well these days, especially with. Everything on our smartphones, right?

[00:09:51] Juliette Karaman: I'm, I know this myself as well, but I noticed kids of today, they're just like on their phone all the time and hardly interact with the people that they're [00:10:00] around. They're all sitting on their phones and of course there's numbing out swipe left, swipe right. We get stimulated all the time.

[00:10:09] Juliette Karaman: So when I bring in. Really slow touch and then one of my methods is touch base can instead of anchor, so they can start to feel safe again. Then it's oh my God. I've had so many of my clients and friends even text me and leave me messages saying I never recognized I was so [00:10:30] numb and I didn't feel, and I could actually feel safe again in sex.

[00:10:34] Juliette Karaman: I feel safe in my body. I didn't have to hurry up through.

[00:10:39] Juliette Karaman: But yeah, that safety piece is really big. The numbing out. Why do we do it? Because sensation full is not always pleasurable, right? Where it's that much sensations we're not used to how? How do we deal with it? So we know 

[00:10:57] Sylvia Solit: I always like to remind people if you're [00:11:00] feeling numb out there in your body, the way back is to just begin telling the truth to yourself in small, simple ways. So it can even be as simple as oh, I feel numb right now. 

[00:11:12] Sylvia Solit: A little disassociated. Lemme just pause.

[00:11:15] Sylvia Solit: It's not override it anymore. It's the overriding that keeps reinforcing it. And so instead getting to honoring it, giving it a. Giving it a seat at the table. Okay. Numbness. You can sit right here with me. 

[00:11:29] Juliette Karaman: Just [00:11:30] be with you. What do you need? Numbness. Yeah, numbness. The beauty is like through the somatic and through, however you're doing it as well is to really focus in that numbness and then to notice like, oh we put attention on it.

[00:11:46] Juliette Karaman: Can we feel the edges of it? Oh, is it static? Is it moving? Does it have a color? Give it all the attributes. And when I first do this with people, they're like, it's [00:12:00] just numb. And then they're like, oh, now that we're, you are actually asking me, I can start. To feel what you're asking me that there is some energy in there.

[00:12:11] Juliette Karaman: I think just what you say that Yeah, it's beautiful. Even a seat at the table that be 

[00:12:16] Sylvia Solit: such a beautiful book, someone should write that book, it be called The Geography of Numbness, and it would be stories where each woman describes the geography, her numbness. It could be this collective love song into the numbness from the divine [00:12:30] feminine saying, we see you, we feel you.

[00:12:32] Sylvia Solit: We've got our sights on you, and we're here. So that if you can witness something that deep in the collective unconscious, then it can heal. It can for the next generation to not have to feel numb. 

[00:12:46] Juliette Karaman: And then I think you've just pointed to it, we can heal that. It can stop with us so that the next generation doesn't have to feel this.

[00:12:56] Juliette Karaman: This is why I'm so passionate about working with sexual [00:13:00]trauma and.

[00:13:01] Juliette Karaman: So that my daughters and the rest of their, in their offspring, once they start having it, don't have to go through the same thing. And already they haven't had the same experiences that I've had or my sister or my mother, my grandparents. If I look back how long that went, I was like, whoa. I didn't actually recognize how many generations we're working on.

[00:13:25] Sylvia Solit: I. I didn't mean to work with [00:13:30] sex because my path was always with money. And I have no training in even, I have no training background or any authority at all to speak about sex on anybody's podcast ever. And yet here we are. And it was just, it just, it's just where consciousness itself took me if you think about money.

[00:13:48] Sylvia Solit: The feminine where we struggle with money is around questions of, of safety and security. And so feminine looks at money and as being other than itself [00:14:00] and something that we don't have the birthright to really own or even can be sometimes seen as unfeminine to, to have your own wealth and so all this conditioning so that we have a very complex relationship to money.

[00:14:13] Sylvia Solit: Primarily based on our fear of safety and security. And so you'll, a typical dynamic that you would see, for example, is a woman who's willing to treat her youth and her beauty for the financial security of an older man. That's very common. So yeah, 

[00:14:26] Juliette Karaman: we've seen 

[00:14:26] Sylvia Solit: that 

[00:14:27] Juliette Karaman: one. 

[00:14:27] Sylvia Solit: We've seen that one before.

[00:14:28] Sylvia Solit: And then we can think [00:14:30] in, in ourselves, like, where are the ways that we've compromised our truth for safety and security? And that will tell 

[00:14:35] Juliette Karaman: you something. Oh, that's a big one. That's really a big one. I wanna just pause you there. Say that again because I think, I actually feel that 

[00:14:42] Sylvia Solit: it's 

[00:14:43] Juliette Karaman: like, 

[00:14:43] Sylvia Solit: where have you sacrificed your truth for safety and security as the divine feminine?

[00:14:49] Sylvia Solit: And that question will tell you a lot about how your relationship is to money. But then there's this secondary. Cord, which it took me some years [00:15:00] to uncover. I didn't see it at first, and then all of a sudden I started to see the connection is that we are also often using our sexuality for safety and security.

[00:15:10] Sylvia Solit: That's very common. Also we're brokering, we're transacting. I will give you this if you give me that. And so it's entrapped both money and sex into the same framework of having to serve our egoic needs for safety and security as opposed to just being currencies that [00:15:30] can run through us as the divine feminine channels that we are, which is always secure.

[00:15:34] Sylvia Solit: Which needs no safety or security added to it because it's inherently safe. But yeah. 

[00:15:40] Juliette Karaman: I'm gonna pause you there again, because for some of the people that may be listening, they understand this in their minds. They might not actually understand it. Their bodies might recognize this, but their minds are still trying to catch up.

[00:15:56] Juliette Karaman: And you're talking about safety and money, safety and [00:16:00] sex. And what would you say to people that are having financial trouble and are finding it difficult to surrender to that divine feminine? Yeah. What are the three things that they can do right now? 

[00:16:17] Sylvia Solit: It's a complex question, which I've been asked many times.

[00:16:20] Sylvia Solit: I often hesitate to answer because there are geopolitical completely at play, right? So not all women are born into an [00:16:30] equal opportunity framework. They're just they're just simple pressures. If we become mothers, just how much harder it can be for us to earn at the same pace as the masculine.

[00:16:42] Sylvia Solit: Or there are certain professions that are considered more the domain of the feminine. For example, teaching or healing professions, which are not valued by society and like how we pay CEOs. 1000 times more than we pay healers is a symptom of society that one individual female [00:17:00] consciousness can't solve with her own abundant mindset.

[00:17:02] Juliette Karaman: It's that's true, that's completely true. But there's some little micro steps that ourselves can take, right? 

[00:17:10] Sylvia Solit: Yeah. I think it's just a more compassionate framework to start from, it's not all about your mindset, but in terms of what the individual can do, some of the things I think are really important is one, number one most important is to change your relationship to work itself.

[00:17:28] Sylvia Solit: Investigate and [00:17:30] eradicate all inherited belief systems that you have around what work is. Work is a sacred part of your birthright, and it should, you should really love what you're doing for work. Love 

[00:17:40] Juliette Karaman: that. That's 

[00:17:41] Sylvia Solit: fact. You like work is meant to be loved because it's meant to be your life purpose on this planet.

[00:17:46] Sylvia Solit: But we are here to work. Don't get me wrong. We're not here for perpetual vacation. God bless you if that's what you want. I don't personally want to be on vacation forever and ever. I wanna work, but 

[00:17:57] Juliette Karaman: it's so good what you're saying because so [00:18:00] often what do we say? It's oh, I've gotta go back to work.

[00:18:02] Juliette Karaman: And already that saying that out loud, you're putting lack on the energy of lack, the this is not good. Hatred. Hatred, yeah. Don't like this. Actually for me, it's oh my God. I get to show up and like interview incredible people like you and I get to help people and have better sex, and have just better connection and talk better with each other and get all rumpy and juicy and yummy together.

[00:18:29] Juliette Karaman: [00:18:30] About showing up in their life, about enjoying the sunshine. Yeah. So yeah, it's say that 

[00:18:36] Sylvia Solit: first, heal your relationship to work because that is within, you 

[00:18:40] Juliette Karaman: heal your relationship to work. Absolutely. 

[00:18:42] Sylvia Solit: And then

[00:18:42] Sylvia Solit: The second piece is to heal your relationship to the frequency of more versus enough this epidemic.

[00:18:49] Sylvia Solit: More versus enough. So really to just, and you have to track this carefully inside yourself is are you running a constant narrative of I need more. And there's always more, and [00:19:00] is more driving your decision making day to day, or have you actually began to begin to cultivate and curate the frequency of enough?

[00:19:07] Sylvia Solit: So enough is I am enough. I have enough. It is enough that Enoughness is available right here, right now. Doesn't need anything. It's right here. So those are like some of the hacks 

[00:19:22] Juliette Karaman: beautiful. 

[00:19:23] Sylvia Solit: Yeah. I'm not so much into creating a vision board because I'm like 

[00:19:26] Juliette Karaman: No. I think, but these are two tangible steps, right?

[00:19:29] Juliette Karaman: Where we [00:19:30] can actually just take a moment, become aware of what's happening, where in your body are you feeling enough? And especially like you said, I'm enough and whatever. If people wanna use affirmations or actually feel them in their body I always think, feel them instead of just say, but also I.

[00:19:47] Juliette Karaman: When you get into that state, you don't want more things. You're, life just is incredible. And that of course is how you start attracting more of that incredibleness. [00:20:00]

[00:20:00] Sylvia Solit: Yeah. So the first kind of edict per se is is love, your work is how to attract more. And then knowing you have enough is how to.

[00:20:08] Sylvia Solit: Spend less like both. Because both are important elements. Yeah. Of, of it's not the rocket science, 

[00:20:15] Juliette Karaman: but 

[00:20:17] Sylvia Solit: it's like that's the more 

[00:20:18] Juliette Karaman: difficult 

[00:20:18] Sylvia Solit: one. Yeah. Abundance 1 0 1. Love your work. Spend less. 

[00:20:22] Juliette Karaman: Oh, I absolutely love this. So tell me, how do you work with people? How do people get a [00:20:30] hold of you or do you do courses?

[00:20:32] Juliette Karaman: Do you do work one-on-one? What? What happens? 

[00:20:35] Sylvia Solit: So I don't actually make a living from being a shaman or facilitator. This is just my passion. So my work is in the family office world and love it. Really if you wanna learn more, just share in more community with me, you can just go to the sylvia com and I do have a newsletter.

[00:20:54] Sylvia Solit: It's a free newsletter. And I'm publishing a book in June of next year under Deepak [00:21:00] Chopra's imprint, and it's called Soul Naked. Initiations of Awakening. 

[00:21:05] Juliette Karaman: Oh, 

[00:21:06] Sylvia Solit: next summer. I want it to be a hot summer read. I want everybody on in the beaches in Europe to be reading Soul Naked. 

[00:21:13] Juliette Karaman: Absolutely. Oh my God, that sounds incredible.

[00:21:18] Juliette Karaman: How do you, so everything will be in the show notes for all our listeners listening, but I'd like to ask, so how do you bring this consciousness into [00:21:30] your family offices and the financial stuff that you do with these? I'm gonna try and not name it too much, so it's 

[00:21:39] Sylvia Solit: good question. It's a, I'd say it's a work in progress.

[00:21:42] Sylvia Solit: It's almost like a. Think tank of what is possible in a family office. It, I have, it's, I've had my hiccups and, I've had my detours on this journey. It's not been a straight line for sure, but it's based on a vision of when you have a family office, it means that you have multi-generational capital and [00:22:00] that is all well and good, and there are really efficient, great systems for managing that capital and very low cost simple systems for managing capital, right?

[00:22:10] Sylvia Solit: What we're talking about is then once you have that established, you have that baseline of the strongly, well-built family office. How do you then wake up each of those individual family members to their own life purpose? And then what is the collective family purpose behind that capital so that you can really begin to [00:22:30] align the capital behind the mission statement of a family so that the journey is not just about managing the capital, but also managing the spiritual capital.

[00:22:41] Sylvia Solit: And so can, if, think about it if a family office can become more conscious, it's the ultimate form of leverage in the entire universe. Because to have conscious stewards is, to me, mission critical. 

[00:22:53] Juliette Karaman: Oh my God. So not up to 

[00:22:55] Sylvia Solit: me to tell you what your agenda is as a steward. It's just up to me to help you to wake up to what [00:23:00] your agenda is as a steward.

[00:23:02] Juliette Karaman: Yeah. And isn't that beautiful? Really waking up and through them, they will wake up more people and then, governments will start to wake up and then it, it just becomes a way of being the stewardship of money Right now, the stewardship of resources. Resources. Beautifully put. Yes. Thank you.

[00:23:25] Sylvia Solit: Yeah, more conscious stewardship is what's being asked for in this time. 

[00:23:29] Juliette Karaman: Yeah, [00:23:30] I really love that. Oh my God, this has gone like, whew, socked it to me everything. I've absolutely adored this. Thank you so much for being on the show. Thank you for having me. It was a real pleasure. Thank you. 

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